Javanese Sex Education part 5

In Javanese culture women are considered as a "container" of seeds to be planted by man and therefore it must be the best look for her. Apart from the three main factors (seedlings, ancestor, weights), a nice woman also must have certain properties.




Secondly, let have a sense of purpose, fashion, baksana, and the Sasana. The description as follows:


Guna means skill or intelligence intention is responsive to the duties and authority as a wife.


Busana means a woman should have the sensitivity to appearance and his clothing proportionally.

Baksana means food, that have the skills to manage finances / income proportionately husband.


Sasana which means home or shelter, it means having the skills to organize and decorate the house beautifully.

Besides nature, a good woman should be able to make herself look good that men who became his life partner and be faithful still can maintain relationships (including sexual relationships). It is because men and women should always work just as well to be able to prepare everything for the sake of welcoming the new person as a result of a sexual relationship that they do.

The third is in terms of loyalty ought to have properties sawanda, saeka praya, and sajiwa, the explanation is as follows:

Sawanda meaning similar, congruent, or color. That is, the woman is willing to merge the body by way of mutual understanding, keeping him just like keeping to himself.

Saeka praya means to unite the will to the will of her husband who aim for the good, then she should feel as self will.

Sajiwa means one heart. The point is the same attitude as the wife to the husband of her own.

For women who have married should implement what the duties of a wife, in this case amounted to three levels, each of which contained three behavioral components:

Let Gemi (saving), Nastiti (smartly), ngati-ati (carefully).

Let tegen (not dissapointed), rigen (skilled), mugen (convincing).

Let titi (carefully), rukti (benefit), rumanti (evenly)


While in the case of work ought to have five properties: rikat.(Fast).cukat,(Agile).prigel,(Deft).Shrewd.terampil,(Skilled).

Subject devotion, let as below:

Let based on ishep (clarity of thought), madhep (intention), mantep (sincerity), sregep (diligence).

Let wekel (diligent), petel (painstaking), nungkul (tireless), atul (patient).

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Javanese Sex Education part 4

Javanese Sex Education part 4 talking about how should a woman be

If you want to have sex, it would be nice if the couple is already bound in the bonds of marriage, and because it is sacred, it is expected not to be wrong and be careful because the impact is very big for the continuation of life.

Beautiful woman both physically and spiritually, so that women are respected by all men. A woman with inner and outer beauty of real capital would be able to tear down the walls of the heart of men in front of him to his knees would give up all my love and affection.

Javanese culture embrace the position of women. There is an attitude in terms of looking at a woman is beauty, not only physically but also in terms of her beauty (pretty physical and spiritual), and women who have the physical and spiritual beauty that is the desire of each man's wife to be his life partner.

That is able to avoid the attitude of hate toward others, because if you do not have a character trait sometimes cause envy the end is malice.

In the context of teaching about sex, the most important thing to note is how to choose a good woman for life, and all aspects of the household run smoothly therein. Therefore, there are some characteristics of the ideal woman as a partner in order to achieve his goal.

That is able to distance themselves from the desire to hurt and hurt other people, because if we do not have these properties, tend to bring out the nature of greed that eventually transformed into evil.

That is repentance which is based on the seriousness and sincerity, so that a woman is capable of doing that will be respected by all men.

Next I hope hope you get a woman in whom the properties are the same, different, money, fine. The same word, meaning to feel the same, that has compassion on his fellow creatures. The word is different, not the same meaning, that has properties as a form of wisdom priority consideration. The word means to reward fund, that ought to have the properties of easy to give to others. Said fines, the law, which means having accurate in determining the nature of something so right to choose what is good and bad.

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Javanese Sex Education part 3

Javanese Sex Education part 3 talking about : how to choose a partner criteria

To adopt a sexual relationship, it must pass through stages of marriage couples. The marriage unites two persons namely men and women in an eternal bond. In order not to experience remorse, then marriage must be based on a careful line with the proverb, although there are other factors that also must be taken into consideration. 

It is found in liver suitability, compatibility and harmony between the two, until then cultivate affection between father and son, dear father then make an analogy of the golden wingka, the intent of the phrase is despite the fact his form in the form wingka (pan) but it looks like a gold.

In view of his life partner, it is necessary to remember expressions wingka golden. Although his form is just pan, but it looks like gold. So even though the spouse does not have a perfect appearance, but must be seen scattered beauty of the heart.

Marriage is just based on personal pleasure men each, while the sense of joy could not be determined, meaning that facial beauty was not necessarily lead to a love of men.

Marriage is a sacred or bonds, so as to carry it out to look for couples who really appropriate. That is, it can not be seen only from the physical alone.

Be careful in choosing, because the status of women for the men likened heaven follow intention is overwhelmed with happiness when his life, just as the position of woman as the complement decorations happiness, whereas when the men one vote, meaning that women who gained not classified as a good woman, it will be cause misery for the man himself.

This section is a human attitude Java in the status of women to men in the household (including sexual affairs) come hell heaven is likened to contribute that if the husband gave the good things as well then she will surely enjoy all the good things also.

Therefore, before determining the choice of a life partner ought to be careful in choosing, as if already it is quite difficult to handle, ended up often lead to unhappiness.

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Javanese Sex Education part 2

Javanese sex education part 2 will talking about three critera of partner to choose:

People should learn to control his lust (lust in this context is lust) in order not to let slip causing something bad.

The role of women is like land for sowing, so let him choose a great land.( pupuh 3 serat nitimani )

In sexual intercourse, then he shall attention that the outcome of the action is a new creature thing else that should not be done haphazardly and the couple should be selected carefully.

The man who intends to choose a lady to marry her, should pay attention to three things: weight, ancestor, seed.

To prepare a good descent, it must also look for partner (her) that meets both criteria-specific criteria. In Javanese culture, there are three most important things to consider are; seedlings, ancestor, and weight.

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Javanese Sex Education part1

Javanese Sex education part 1 talking about some knowledge of sexual relation:

In Javanese culture are taught that in order to produce something better then the original process of creation should also be good and with the blessing of Almighty God as the creator. Similarly, the sexual process whose sole purpose is to produce offspring. To get a good descent in every way, his presence in this Sunia be through initial intentions were good and the process of sexual relations is right and proper. To be able to have sex with both the necessary knowledge on everything about sex. Knowledge of sexual relations is needed because it will relate to the next life. If the process is wrong, then the consequences will be bad, not only for children but for the resulting balance and harmony of life. Errors in the process of sexual intercourse in Javanese culture known as karma salah. So to prevent karma one man should have sufficient knowledge about the manner of intercourse.

With adequate knowledge, it is expected people to think more about sex so it does not do so in vain because the result is fatal for the survival of mankind and consistent of relationship with nature around where people live. Fatal consequences appear on the state of today's society where many people start having sex without regard to norms and ethics resulting in appear of problems in people's lives a case of rape, a growing number of abandoned children to an increase in crime.

In Java, there are cultural treasures doctrine or moral compass, values ​​and norms of how to have sex is right and proper, as in the following serat nitimani footage relating to the Doctrine meant:



When it is playing, try to remain silent heart, that concentration is maintained, so as not invincible. ( pupuh 2 Serat Nitimani )
Note : The definition of "play" in this case is analogous to copulation.


If careless, be careful not to be complacent, it is very painful.
Note : Careless word means in the context of sexual intercourse is to remain vigilant in sexual intercourse so as not to experience things that are not expected.

If not satisfied, do not look at the face, covering it with a cheerful face, so that, no trouble.

Note : Not content in question here, still in the context of a sexual relationship that is a state where one of the parties have not reached a point of satisfaction or orgasm.

When upset, do not broke in the heart, keep nice, to more tolerant, in the hope, that dissatisfaction is not protracted.

Note : Disappointed in this phrase is in the context of sexual relationships and achieve satisfaction.

If caught in a shame, do not mute, because if silence, will be seen on the face.

When a man fails in sexual intercourse because of certain things, so that's where he would feel very embarrassed.

What if have the desire, nor out of control crashing ethics, to survive, keep always in noble attitude.

The point is in terms of the desire to have sex then do not get out of hand, should still pay attention to ethics.

If you're enjoying something, do not be lulled consciousness, in order to stay alert, vigilance will not bad ending.

Mean : That is if the pleasure is in sexual intercourse, awareness and self-awareness must be maintained, so as not to see bad ending or death.

During the self-controlled, patient abstinence, loose yourself without control, is a greedy behavior.

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