Javanese Wedding : Shower ceremony

In the Javanese tradition, particularly in the series of wedding procedure, known as a 'siraman'ceremonial. Siraman ceremony is a ceremony held for the opening series of the wedding, the bride and groom to bathe. The ceremony is usually the day before the ceremony 'temu' (Intersection) / Panggih (meet) implemented.


Although lately is rare, in the pouring ceremony is usually sung Sekar / Tembang (song) Macapat Dhandhanggula Siraman. The song used to accompany the bride and groom when washed. Not only as a sweetener, but chanting Sekar Dhandhanggula Siraman is intended as a prayer, petition, hope, as well as advice for the bride and groom. That's one of the advantages of the Javanese, who are able to assemble a lot of things in a song.

Sekar / Tembang / song Macapat Dhandhanggula Siraman consists of 7 'pada' (couplet). It is adjusted by the amount beborèh (scrubs) to use when bathing the bride, each of which is distinguished by colors. The colors are red beborèh (rekta), black (langking), yellow (jenar), blue, purple (Wungu), white (Seta), and green (Willis). In its use is also not random, but rather in order of red, black, yellow, blue, purple, white, and green last.
Each color has a meaning, intent, and purpose of its own, as expressed in the following Sekar Dhandhanggula Siraman.



Immediately flushing the body of the princess, with a sparkling clear water, scrubed with red scrubs, As he rubbed his body, accompanied by prayer and thanksgiving praise unspoken, soluble all the sick and wounded, Really fascinating when seen, faithful and open character, Tough, can trustworthy, determined, workmanlike in completing work / duty, Sentosa / strong opinionated.




Dimly shining light, looks beautiful dazzling, black color of the scrubs, Prayer safety of the unspoken, like a brave knight character, Righteous noble character, there really love others, blending clever, sincere, sert always do good deeds with sincerity and heartfelt, protected from all dangers.

Looks soared as curved, shining bright in color shades, Incandescent light yellow, yellow color that symbolizes the character that is always patient, Behave commendable and submits to the will of God, has character and attitude are always vigilant and careful, Weak-soft and delight in talking, the conversation using that free is good, be careful, and nothing important is missed, So as to be paragon

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Learning what Javanese people taught about sex

Based of Javanese Manuscript : Serat Nitimani (sex education part 9)

As for when to praise and ignore behavior, will be described as below: First, from intercourse with women have the desire, all must be pure. Must wash bath, then took a dipper of water and raised near the front to pray. But how such ancient prayer when I was less clear, however, if yes than today better be silent intention, and thus should say: "my intention bath, bathing lake kalkaosar, purify the blood of all who are in our body, it makes bead out the diamond, light is shone like rays of light of God Almighty. "Water in the bucket is then poured over the face and continued showers until all bodies to be holy both for men and women.

Here is the teaching of the concept of sex in terms of how to start a sexual relationship right. The process of unification between the two new people is something sacred and very important to be prepared as well as possible. The first thing to do is to cleanse himself by bathing. Bathing in this context is not just for the sake of mere physical comfort, but in certain ways in order to cleanse the soul and heart well. Bathing should be accompanied by good intentions and prayers, in order to clean all the dirt (physical and spiritual) and the intention of something good in the heart. It is expected in sexual intercourse, both (male and female) are in a clean and pure so that the seeds that appear later are come from the action that has been purified.

After completion of purification bath wash (jamas) then dressed neat to invite lust core behavior with appropriate dress and wear perfume. Once all that is done, then together into a place to sleep, that go to bed, or place of rest is to bed. There, men put aji kamajaya pronounced in the heart.

After cleaning up, then the next step is teaching about how and how and appropriate action to initiate such a sacred activity. First, to arouse desire then each should apply himself to dress up and wear fragrances. After that, it should also be considered where such activities and are not allowed to be done in any place.

As for the women, also intends to first be willing Betalmukadas, that hold mute state in the kingdom of holiness, is in baga. The second one then intends to open nala , meaning heart charm, a vehicle that is lust, lust means intercourse, grew into early, meaning the seeds are in purana. The third, fourth, fifth, sixth, seventh, and so on until no different than men. After finishing the all and then they make love, bring intention, whereas all the doings of the sex, it's actually a secret chapter, who can know about placement when marking an early start on this until now it was very nice, the point the way humans, and does not eliminate manners, perhaps as it is called enchanting beauty praman, open state of atma, that would be wisdom. After sex they get out of bed, then shower jamas again, while the behavior or of procedures not unlike the way a bath as above was but a prayer request as follows: "Feet and Hands are in the behavior, behavior is in the heart, heart are in Praman Hyang, making holy bath halycon eternal soul in our body. "

In addition to men, the women also have to prepare some things that essentially is almost the same as men. There are several stages of the opening is done slowly is "Charm" or the attractiveness of each of the senses of humanity held until later appeared "intention" or desire for sexual intercourse steady. How good conformity relates in essence to each individual to understand their needs and to always remember manners, that relate to the ways that ethical and humane. After having sex then taught appropriate action is bathing in a way similar to that done prior to the event, with a prayer a little different. The purpose of the act of bathing after sex is to purify themselves each and also cleaned up. Prayers are being said in essence, asking the Lord to what has been done can be purified and bring good results.

Know that people in the world is like just transite to drink ....

In the context of sexual teachings, must keep in mind that life was just something temporary like like people who travel a lot and just stop by for a drink. Therefore, do not have sex just for pleasure world are temporary, but to think also about the accountability to God in the next life journey.

Whether you have never heard stories postulate word of God, wajida-wajidahu, means: who is really going to get the results .....


There is a phrase that means the wajida wajidahu who would actually get results. The point here is in relation to the concept of sex then the phrase is meant to convey that sexual relations should be implemented in earnest in order to get good results.

Similarly footage in Serat Nitimani contains teachings on the concept of sex in Javanese culture. Doctrine is a Javanese cultural value system that foundation is the concept of religion that is the problem of human relationship with God. It can be concluded that all aspects of the life of Java, including the sex certainly lead to problems between man and God. Sex in Javanese culture is not just a means to vent my desires and just have a good time but come to the understanding that the relationship is a formal bond between man and woman as husband and wife who should be accountable to God. In this case, it can said:  that sex is an activity that is considered holy and sacred as a result of these actions is to produce a new human being. The birth of people in the world to be prepared as possible including the beginning of the process of creation. It is intended that the child to be born is derived from the outset a clear process so as to know the purpose of life is clearly anyway. The concept of the origin and purpose of human life is a basic concept of what being human trust Java. That the doctrine of human sex is the starting gate to understand two main concepts in the Javanese culture sangkan Paraning dumadi concept and manunggaling kawulo lan gusti concept. Thus, the teaching of sex in serat Nitimani aims to provide a moral compass, values ​​and principles for the Javanese people on how to have sex in the right way and the right (bener lan pener), because in the end what the outcome of such actions related to the origin life and the main purpose of life back to the Lord.

Hopefully can add insight and knowledge for us in life. More or less please forgive.Thanks

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Javanese Dream Interpreting part 1

In the Java community there is a unique culture that is in the habit of capturing or interpreting signs (Samita) are nearby. The sign is a dream which is a medium of information that contains symbols interpreted as a harbinger of the future. It can also be concluded that the Java community have intelligence in interpreting dreams.

Dream interpretation with various symbols:


1.Symbol of God.

That God who created the universe and its contents, which turn on and off all there. Understanding the symbol of God as contained in the following excerpt:



God created man, from semen father and mother until the coming of death.

When people dream of meeting God, it pleases of the joy that is in the world, it means it will get happiness and safety.

If you dream of seeing God gives objects or clothes, it means it will get into trouble.

2. Symbol of Angels

Angel was one of the messengers of God that is different from human behavior, which has a very subtle body like the wind, but using the spirit (soul), and do not eat, drink, and the other as humans do.

If there are people who dream of seeing the good angel, it means it will get the glory of the world until the coming of death.

If you dream of seeing there are angels who are in the village, it means that the village will get the fertility of the soil and there is no disease.

If you dream of seeing angels in the grave (tomb) that means it will have the disease until his death.

3. Symbols Prophet and Messenger

The apostle was one man who was sent by God.

If there are people who dream of seeing the Prophet who died or were sick, it means it will get into trouble.

If the dream given items such as clothing, swords and others, it means well.

4. Symbol of Heaven

Heaven is one of the vast, its place in the sky. All there and wonder, because in it there are the things that we have never seen the world and others. Heaven is a pleasant place.

People who dream of going into heaven means everything is a beautiful place on Earth that does not like will get happiness means that all actions acceptable and what is expected.

If the dream of seeing the fruits of heaven then pick it mean when talk about anything will be heard or be followed, because the fruits of heaven that means good speech.

When people dream out of heaven it means it will get the misery that was always doing good but now always greedy indulgence.

5. Symbols Hell

Hell is one of the very vast like heaven, but in hell it is full of fire. Hell it signifies bad deeds of the misery that is the dream.


People who dream of going to hell and cried out loud it means to experience a very severe tribulations that she was not all bad and ungodly.

People who dream of going to hell, but not hot at all it means it will get the job woes heavy work or where he would get a severe hardship.(src)

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Sex Education From Java

Based from Javanese manuscript : Serat Nitimani. (sex education part 8 )

In sexual relations are also taught to be in a position completely calm heart, everything in good condition in order to yield the resulting offspring is also good. Not only that, but the hearts of men and women who have sex should also be clean and sober.

When discussing the case of seeds, right, is in men, therefore, women are likened to the board or container.

Woman is the container where the men are putting semen in order to be preserved and cared for in a place where the woman's uterus.

The will of God the Exalted wills left the seed of man.

In terms of sexual relations, it must be remembered that the presence of the fetus is the work of God, so it must be reliable.

It is a doctrine about action, namely that in sexual relationships should be with full awareness and endeavored not to be dragged down by the sheer lust. That is, during sex should be kept in mind that the ultimate goal is to produce a new human being is good. Thus, people who come from good processes it will return to the Creator with a good condition also.

The first, in case there are people telling sentence men and women willing to make love, get into bed means to be in bed even though there were only two of us and deserted place that essentially invisible crowd, despite the seriousness of the feelings so do not forget to ......

This is the teaching of how to correct when men and women will begin conducting sexual relations, which must be done at the proper place.

Who are the people who run the contemptible act will surely see infamy.



Running a humiliating act intention is to have sex without proper preparation and just based on mere lust, it will also be bad.


So-called human if infidels had intercourse, then it could be a seed of man, even as babies continued to receive teachings lack of mainstreaming and kindness, which will probably be when they grew wicked and mischievous as it is made from the union of the devil.

In the teaching of sexual intercourse, the intention was originally to be a good intention. Man who would carry it out must also be with a pure heart and mind, not with a dirty mind. Having sex in a dirty state. Having sex in a dirty condition both physically and his mind will produce something ugly and dirty anyway, because it is made from the union of two equally dirty (Satan).


That relationship was not able to play games or joking.

The relationship in question here is sexual intercourse. Thus, sexual activity should be taken seriously and should not be messing around.
(source)

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Right SEX

Right Sex Of : Javanese Sex Education part 7


Science romance is a means to determine the origin of man, as the proverb he who does not know the true origin will not know where the purpose of his life, his future will not necessarily perfect.

Sexual intercourse is a very important issue in Javanese culture because the result is a new life. Therefore taught that before sexual intercourse should be prepared everything so that the result is also perfect and understand the origin of where it will end.

If God permits, those games will be a means and vehicle for creating human. Sexual relations are really going sanctioned by God and given the correct result anyway.



In terms of sex, it is the most important role of the genitals as the main medium. Javanese culture teaches about the concept of male genitalia as important as it is part of the funeral as well.

When a man and woman have intercourse, kama meetings allowed by God Almighty, man will might be widened. Merging of kama (sperm and egg cells) would then remain silent in the womb of pregnant women who came to be called.

The purpose of the sexual relationship the most important one is to produce offspring. Human seed in the womb of a woman who was present that could exist only because of the blessings of God.

In fact, in intercourse a woman has to follow the will of men.Those things are teaching about appropriate measures for women in terms of sexual intercourse.The woman's behavior when intercourse should compensate the man movement that aims to foster a sense of pleasure.In a sex taught about how a woman's attitude that sexual activity can achieve the desired goal of being able to offset the movement of men.

In addition to balancing the movement, women should also be responsive and understand what the will of men.With such efforts are actually another form of worship. Because the shape persistence and determination is basically a means to intelligence or skill. To also means facilities, ie equipment. Means can be interpreted as a mantra, that intention verbalized, while prayer also means hope or joy. All are balanced between behavior with conscience.(source)

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Javanese Sex education part 6

Based on Serat Nitimani :



Application asmaragama is when weapons possessed man combat ready yet so do not rush into the game, because the game would not have lasted cried. The men would not be able to last long, and the woman as opposed to compete would not be satisfied. Do not challenge the play simply because the impulse of passion, because if a man lost in just a few moments it will be very embarrassing, it will be considered as a weak man, sluggish, and there is no point.

In the context of teaching sex serat Nitimani, the application of asmaragama is how sexual relations are good and right. How are the techniques used in order to comply with the change process has a more specific purpose.

That meant losing prestige is feeling defeated or what to expect initially did not correspond to reality. Finally, is not perceived pleasure but fatigue may even hurt. Conditions as it is called 'tumanding kang sanes bangsa'.

Sexual intercourse typically involves two parties, namely men and women. In sexual intercourse, then they should both are in good condition. If one of them had something bad then the impact will be exposed on both sides.

Therefore, it ought to be careful in choosing a life partner, because if you are the right choice, you will be completely bonded and happy because you will feel the pleasure is complete, without any obstacles that block except the satisfaction that continues to cover.

This section describes the sexual attitudes in the context of teaching, how to act in terms of choosing a life partner that not one so as to achieve pleasure and away from obstacles.

When a male heirloom weapons ready combat, all standby power, then immediately start the game. Undoubtedly the battle will not disappoint. But it is cautious, not careless. When nailing gun attack on the opponent, let prioritize vigilance.

It is part of the way in teaching sex in Javanese Culture.

In such circumstances, motion planning control your gun, do not rush to finish quickly, with the aim that women are up against are underserved and will fight the desire mounting.

This section is still taught ways on how to act properly in intercourse.
Let cautious in releasing the mace weapon.
Mace weapon referred to in this context is the male genitals to be removed or inserted into a woman's genitals.

( source )

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HEAVENLY FAMILY part 2

Enterprises devil not stop there. He turned back to Allah Almighty as he begged to be given the power to try Prophet Ayyub through their children. Allah said: "Please, go away. I give you carte blanche to try Ayyub through her ​​children. "The devil departed. Its target audience is the building where the children Prophet Ayyub As shelter underneath. The building was shaken and shattered override exhausted children Prophet Ayyub As, all dead. Satan then gave the Prophet Ayyub As has affected her children.

What is his reaction ?. Prophet Ayyub even forgiveness for mercy to God

Enterprises devil still does not yield any obedience to the Prophet Ayyub As change. remained obedient to God and thank Him. Devil back to Allah Almighty as he begged to be given the power to test it. God said to him: "Please give unto you power to examine the body through the oral and minds. But not his heart."

Satan immediately set out to seduce Prophet Ayyub As. To the place was apparently intended prostrate. Satan came from the direction of the head of him, then blew his nostrils with a single blow. Immediately Prophet Ayyub As body felt itchy. The longer feel the itch. Prophet Ayyub As scratching body parts the itchy body with her ​​fingertips. But it has not lost the itching.

As Prophet Ayyub tried scratching it with coarse cloth. Yet also the itching disappeared. Then use kereweng (broken tiles) and stone. never stopped scratching his body to blister, so the foul-smelling pus. Surrounding society considers harmful to the disease being experienced by Prophet Ayyub As. They agreed exiled to other regions. driven to a dirty place. They make for a shack that was only accompanied by his wife named Rahmah.


However his wife, Rahmah, always faithful to serve him. He did very well to him. He treated him lovingly. The needs of eating and drinking is always considered. The Prophet Ayyub As a deport themselves consisted of three groups. But it's all still in the original faith. They did not leave his religion.


In another story reported that, no one intends facing Umar Bin Khattab was about to complain about her bad temper. Up to a designated person Umar Ra was waiting at the door. At that time he heard 'Umar's wife nags him, while Umar himself just remain silent without reacting. Those that intend to turn back foot while muttering: "If the state amirul believers have been, how it is with me."

Along that Umar came out, when I saw him way back. Umar called him, he said: "There needs important?". He replied: "Amirul mu'minin, this is actually coming about my wife wants to sue because like scolded me, but as soon as I heard your own wife did the same, then I intend to return. I said to myself: if the state of amirul mukminin also treated his wife like that, how it is with me."

Umar said to him: "Brother, I'm actually willing to endure such treatment from my wife because of some of the rights available to him. My wife acted as cooks my food, he always made bread for me. He always wash my clothes, he was breastfeeding my children, even though all of it is not her responsibility I ease enough to avoid doing bad because of my wives services that why I received even scolded. "

The man said: "Commander of the amirul mukminin, as well as to my wife?". Umar replied: "Yes Accept mad because your wife do not be long, just a minute."

Asiyah full story here, when Prophet Musa As Pharaoh's defeat witches, faith Asiyah more stable. her believed to God itself it is long embedded in his heart, and he did not state the Pharaoh (him) as God. So Pharaoh increasingly clear about the faith of his wife, so he sentenced her.




Both hands and feet were tied. Asiyah hot stretched on the ground, her face shine of sun. When his tormentors again, the angel closes sunlight so it does not feel torment. Not enough was done Pharaoh torment, he again ordered the executioner to be dropping a large rock into the Asiyah chest.


while Asiyah want to see the boulder against her, she prayed to Allah Almighty:

”ROBBI IBNILII ‘INDAKA BAITAN FIL JANNAH. ” (Q. S. At Tahrim, ayat 11).

 "O Allah, my Lord create for me by your side a building in Heaven"


God immediately showed a building in heaven made ​​of shiny colored marble. Asiyah was very happy, and his soul out there later then it dropped a large rock on his body so she does not feel pain, because his body has not had a life.

Sheikh Abdullah Habib Al Haddad said, someone who is the person who makes it perfect his rights, but it is not easy (understatement) the rights of God. In contrast to the less perfect is the unknown vice versa.

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HEAVENLY FAMILY part 1

RIGHTS OF HUSBAND TO WIFE

 “WA ‘AASYIRUUHUNNA BILMA’RUUFI” (Quran surat Annisaa:19)

And screwed them (your wives) with either "The meaning is socially fair. 

"And women have equal rights with obligations under right way. However, the husband has a degree of advantage than his wife. "(Quran Surat Al-Baqoroh :228)

"Those men who marry a woman with a dowry little or a lot, but he did not intend to fulfill the rights of the wife (ie mean cheating) and then he was dead until've never fulfill the rights of his wife, the Day of Judgement later he will be facing Allah SWT with the title as the adulterer. "

"It is precisely the perfection of faith of the believers are those who prefer to be affectionate (lenient) to his wife. '

“KHOIRUKUM KHOIRUKUM LIAHLIHII WA ANA KHOIRUKUM LI AHLII. ”
(Riwayat Ibnu Hibban).

"The best of people among you are those who are best to their wives. And I am the best among you to the family (my wives). ''

“MAN SHOBARO’ALA SUUI KHULUQI IMROATIHII A’THOOHU ALLAHU MINAL AJRI MITSLAMAA U’THIYA AYYUUBU ‘ALAIHISSALAAMU’ALA BALAA IHI WA MAN SHOBAROT ‘ALASUI KHULUQI ZAUJIHAA A’THOOHALLAHU MINAL AJRI MITSLATS.A.WAA BI AASIYATA IMROATA FIR’AUNA. ” (words of prophet)

"Those who bear the ugliness of his wife's behavior then Allah will reward him as reward ever given by God Almighty to Prophet Ayyub AS over the trials received. And those who bear the ugliness of her husband's behavior then Allah may reward him as reward ever given to the Pharaoh's wife Asiyah."

Trials that Allah Almighty to Prophet Ayyub AS is composed of four kinds of trials. Covering trials on insolvency (bankruptcy) wealth, the death of all her children, damage to the body and ostracized by society but only to accompany his wife are faithful. The destruction of wealth Prophet Ayyub AS consists of camels, cows, goats, elephants, khimar (donkey). Other property he owned was 500 acres of agricultural land, everything worked by 500 people, each person has a wife and kids. Her followers consist of 3 groups all have faith and still young.

Satan who  given power by God can drop up from earth to heaven when you want, have a view up to the sky. Suddenly Satan heard the angels read sholawat the Prophet Ayyub AS. At that moment there arose a sense hasud in his heart. He said pleading to Allah: "O Lord, now I have indeed witnessed thy servant Ayyub as he ardently grateful praise. but if you give her ordeal she would not be grateful and did not obey "

Allah said to Satan, "well, please you tease now I give unto you power to try Prophet Ayyub wealth through property. "The devil departed. He gathered all the men consisted of devils and demons he told them: "Now I have been given the authority to try Ayyub through his property."

Further Satan said again: "Ifrit, now I give you the task of burning grazing camels belonging Ayyub and simultaneously kill the camels. "The devil come to see Ayyub, when it was he was praying. The devil said to him: "camels grazing on fire, and burned the whole camel yours anyway. "What did the Prophet Ayyub :" Praise God who gives wealth to me and only He likewise has the right to take it back "

The devil did not stop there. He rose again on the wealth of others. He destroyed all the goats belonging to the Prophet Ayyub As, the following points suburbs. He came to the Prophet Ayyub As while telling incident. "The hot wind had destroyed his garden, there is nothing left at all," the devil's garden after destroying all Prophet Ayyub . What did the Prophet Ayyub As. "Thank God .." then he praised Allah and praised Him."

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